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Facing the Facts

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There are a number of painful and hard realities that we need to accept if we’re to going be free, and to take control of our life and destiny. They include understanding that:

1. There are people in our world who will never like or want us – so don’t look for acceptance and affirmation there.

2. Everyone has issues that affect relationships. So, it’s not always your fault when relationships are strained, communication’s difficult, or awkwardness occurs.

3. The majority of people don’t really want to change – or to change in significant and positive ways. The status quo is easier, and a lot less work.    

4. If you choose to set some goals, and are committed to change, and you really want to grow and make something of your life, then you’ll likely lose some friends or even make some enemies. That’s because those other people will feel threatened by success. Understand what’s going on so you don’t take it personally!

5. Often life’s a competition - even though we say it’s not. We notice other’s strengths, their successes, lucky breaks – and we compare ourselves to them – and often in an unfair way.

6. We all want to be accepted for who and what we are. We wish that friends were loyal and would think the best of us, and be there in the hard times when we just need a smile or hug.

7. If you want to succeed then it’s going to be hard work; and if you want to have real friends then you must be a friend yourself.

8. Try to let go of the past, and old hurts and grievances. You only get one life so try to live it to the full, and seek to grasp and make the most of opportunities.